As some of you may know I have spent some time working in a kindergarten. Grown ups come up to me all the time to chat about how "difficult" kids are, and honestly I look at them with a blank face and tell them the truth: I have no idea what they mean. Kids are not difficult.
Perhaps grown ups often find kids difficult, because kids are not yet tamed and fitted for a certain box of characteristics. There was a little boy in my kindergarten who loved to bite the other kids cheeks, it made him smile and giggle. He loved the warm softness of the babies soft skin, and he went for the youngest. He most certainly not would bite a grown up because they were just gross and had hard leathery skin.
The grown ups who "owned" the kids who he bit, looked at this little boy like he was an evil massmurderer in the making. They could just not wrap their head around why a boy of one years old could enjoy biting someone, unless he was cruel and spiteful and wanted to hurt them.
This is what we can learn from kids:
1) Doing things because its fun and makes us giggle.
2) Jumping up and down a lot because it releases endorfins.
3) Make a mess of things just to see how all the liquids and hard matters get mixed and look beautiful and interesting and make imaginary shapes together.
4) Protect our friends when people are mean to them, and let them know its not ok cause thats OUR friend.
5) Get so shocked and appalled when the cake we eat turn out to be sand, because our reality is so much better than the real reality.
6) Scream of joy when we see the garbage truck, because they must be superheroes, since they are driving such a big truck.
7) Forgive people when they bite us or hit us or throw things at us or scream at us, and still let them play with us if they say sorry.
8) Knowing that anything that can walk on two feet is human, even if it is a dog that learned a trick, and they should all be treated equally.
9) Look down on the ground and get red in the face and mumble and choke when we try to tell a lie, because we feel soo awful about it.
10) Always ask questions if we are actually wondering something, and never jump to conclusions.